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In a way, we’re having our cake and eating it, because we’re both still happy with our spouses (me more than him to be honest), happy with our lives, but it’s just wonderful to have each other too. It’s like the icing on the cake! Of course meeting would be awesome, and it is tough to be so far apart sometimes, but it would hurt or affect too many people, so it has to stay just a dream for now, although neither of us like to say it would never happen.
hi Bh,
gosh, at least you sound as though things are reasonably settled between you all. Please don’t think I’m being in any way judgmental, or trying to take some moral high ground here, I would hate it if you thought that, but this isn’t something I could do, personally, it would be beyond my own boundaries.
I’m all for banter, even some innuendo and having a laugh, but I couldn’t continue a platonic internet friendship where it got too personal, I would have to step back from that.
It wouldn’t be fair on my husband and I wouldn’t be happy if he was talking to someone of the opposite sex for any length of time, unless it’s purely forum specific i.e. about the racing for instance.
I don’t think I’ve got much to worry about though being a bit forthright can be offputting, probably defensive, so this sort of thing just doesn’t happen to me
….lol…..
best of luck to you, as long as you’re all happy that’s the main thing, and thanks so much for sharing your story with us and being so candid about it.
congrats to Happy Jack and Sal – I love hearing about this sort of thing.
Maxilon,
my, you get about…lol….do you think you’ll ever settle down or is that a daft question?
I spent my mis spent youth reading Thomas Hardy and Emile Zola – no wonder I’m such a pessimist!
.. I liked Zola, I wouldn’t want to go through it again though. Not as good/bleak as Dostoyevski or Kafka though.
Those were the days .. we would sometimes spontaneously burst into song.
when I lived in Cornwall [my hippy days] there was an adaptation of Nana on the telly which I loved – that got me into reading Zola, and I was fascinated by the Rougon/ Maquart[?] family where a thread of insanity ran through them – probably because I come from a fairly dysfunctional family myself and I’ve often wondered where it’s come from [Great Auntie Gertie methinks]….and where it’s going….used to love writing and receiving letters..used to write to a man from Loughborough who one day wrote to me and said that he was coming to visit me in Cornwall. Phoned him up to say I wasn’t in Cornwall but Birmingham, so next day he picked me up, drove me to Cornwall and we were together for 30 years. suppose the internet has taken over from letter writing but is much more romantic than phone calls [however, someones voice is terribly important as well]. perhaps I’m not as cynical as I think, but I’m still a pessimist..life, don’t talk to me about life…..
I used to read Zola and Dostoyevsky in my youth too, Nana and L’Assomoire were my favourites by Zola and The Brother’s Karamazov. One of the Zola books, (can’t remember which,) was so bleak it was almost comical, a little girl gets beaten to death by her drunken father and an old man or woman starves to death in a cupboard. No wonder I was a miserable kid!
Mrs Mare, I am rather partial to American women – primarily due to:
a) A remarkably enduring formative crush on The Bionic Woman
b) A fondness for Big Hair a la Angie DickinsonAlas, I am currently becalmed due to a rather barren summer on the gee gees. With any luck, I’ll be at Saratoga this summer in the company of some big haired Lyndsey Wagner look-a-like and normal service will be resumed.
To more directly answer your question, I would settle down with that rarest of beasts – the female punter. I’d love to settle down in company under the duck feathers, with an AW formbook and a trainerform chart
I agree with Moehat here. Sometimes the telephone, the written word, the anticipation and the harnessing of imagination can be an experience in itself.
Max,
you sound like a good catch but just a word of advice. I would hide the AW formbook under the bed if I were you. Laying there and thinking of England is one thing – Wolverhampton is quite another.best of luck with your endeavours
Max,
Laying there and thinking of England is one thing – Wolverhampton is quite another.Superb stuff.
Max,
Laying there and thinking of England is one thing – Wolverhampton is quite another… Quite brilliant UMDon’t want to go into too many details, but I’ve had an internet ‘friend’ for four and a half years now. Neither of us is in a position to do anything about it, what with families etc and him being 1000s of miles away, so we’re just happy with chatting over the interweb. We’ve always been honest with each other though, none of this pretending to be 22 crap! We know each other warts an’ all.
And neither of us was looking for it to happen, it just did.I’ll take it he is a non smoker then !
I’m delighted to have brought a smile to a few faces – this is unusual for me.
thanks peopleDon’t want to go into too many details, but I’ve had an internet ‘friend’ for four and a half years now. Neither of us is in a position to do anything about it, what with families etc and him being 1000s of miles away, so we’re just happy with chatting over the interweb. We’ve always been honest with each other though, none of this pretending to be 22 crap! We know each other warts an’ all.
And neither of us was looking for it to happen, it just did.I’ll take it he is a non smoker then !
Haha no he smokes! Although I have to admit that he did try to hide that fact from me for a while, knowing how much I hate smoking. He airbrushed a cigarette out of a photo he sent me
He did own up in the end. That’s where internet relationship’s work….I can’t smell the smoke, and he can’t see me in the morning with my hair on end and no make-up on.I’m delighted to have brought a smile to a few faces – this is unusual for me.
thanks peopleUnusual? It’s your forte
it’s not new – story off BBC website today :
Wife killed ‘over cyber affair’
A husband stabbed his wife 10 times after he found out she was having a "cyber relationship" with another man, the Old Bailey has heard.
Aygul Dogan, 23, from Stoke Newington, begged her husband Kemal Dogan, 35, to forgive her after he found her baring her body on the web, the jury heard.On their way home, Mr Dogan allegedly told his wife her life was at an end.
Mr Dogan, who was infertile, denies his wife’s murder in December 2005 on the grounds of diminished responsibility.
The kebab shop manager claims that he was suffering from clinical depression at the time of his wife’s murder.
Don’t want to go into too many details, but I’ve had an internet ‘friend’ for four and a half years now. Neither of us is in a position to do anything about it, what with families etc and him being 1000s of miles away, so we’re just happy with chatting over the interweb. We’ve always been honest with each other though, none of this pretending to be 22 crap! We know each other warts an’ all.
And neither of us was looking for it to happen, it just did.I’ll take it he is a non smoker then !
Haha no he smokes! Although I have to admit that he did try to hide that fact from me for a while, knowing how much I hate smoking. He airbrushed a cigarette out of a photo he sent me
He did own up in the end. That’s where internet relationship’s work….I can’t smell the smoke, and he can’t see me in the morning with my hair on end and no make-up on.I have no chance then Borrough Hill, with my twenty a day habit, add another 10 to that when I am out drinking which is fairly often, and thats with the smoking ban in place.
"Any single girls on here, who enjoy a puff"
not the homosexual puff, just in case some smart ass, wants to comment on it.
madman’s looking for a good spanking by the sound of things..
Simon,
thanks for posting that dreadful story –
the things people doI prefer to look on the bright side though, and think of all the happy friendships that have developed because of this wonderful innovation.
Some of which have been revealed on here.
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