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Yeah good thanks Ben. Looking forward to a couple of days of football, racing and darts on TV before real life resumes on Wednesday.
Hope you can find some time to enjoy yourself amongst the serious stuff.
Life is tough Ben
We all have to go through adversity in many different ways
We either sink or swim
I’ve found the main thing that helps me is trying to keep positive and moving forward, easier said than done
Even that set me back, when I realised looking back that I hadn’t grieved in a way I felt I should have done, because I had lost a lot of people close to me I found that I would keep those I love at arms length.
I have moved in the right direction on that over the last year and my relationships with my son and friends are better for me being more openBlackbeard to conquer the World
Very true Nathan, that was always my approach too, ignore the negative/sad emotions and simply look forward, but there are certain things that just doesn’t work for, sure it helps in the moment but those niggling emotions/feelings linger in the back of our heads and never go away until we face them head on. And my lord facing them head on is harder than you’d ever wish!
I would like to thank Ben for his honesty and likeability. I cannot do likeability but I have written honesty down in my New Years resolution list at number 4.
Secondly I would like to thank the fine words of the Agony Aunts and Uncles for drawing on their individual life experiences to help an old fogey like me recharge and restart his life.
Tippi says it’s never too late and your kindly thought out words and advices have transformed me (wipes away a tear) the fraud of this forum to see things from a much higher perspective as I look down on Broken Britain and the river once called the Thamesis that runs through Bankrokeciti, as the cold night air whistles around my ankles on the small ledge on which I stand outside the window on the eighteenth floor.
If I were offering life advice to gamble (not that the great man has asked) it would go like this.
Back in the 1960s, there was an organised crime fashion for perpetrating a felony in Britain, then fleeing to a country with no extradition treaty with us.
But many got homesick, visited Blighty on the quiet (or so they thought) and were arrested.
My advice to gamble is: locate a country Britain has no extradition treaty with, go there, rob a bank (a big one) – and come home.
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It's the "Millwall FC" of Point broadcasts: "No One Likes Us - We Don't Care"Ian we have to talk Gamble of the bloody ledge first! Does he like hobnobs by any chance?
“I cannot do likeability but I have written honesty down in my New Years resolution list at number 4.” – and that line really made me chuckle! Thank you for the king words though Gamble and all others!
The Greek philosopher Aristotle famously wrote…
“Give me a child until he is 7 and I will show you the man ”
I would ask everyone on the forum not to be too hard on yourself for your poor life decisions and regrets – you can always blame Maw and Paw.
My Paw was a big softee, and a committed gambler and a daily drinker who lacked confidence in himself – born out by the fact that one time, when the Tory candidate came a knocking, I eventually found him hiding behind a tree in the back garden.
Just blame it on your folks!
I went for an amble today, two and half hours and I can count the amount of humans I saw on one hand. Bliss, although the ground was testing. Very heavy, waterlogged in places, unraceable.
Chezza had a monster lie in and watched the Boxing Day racing – Chezza has attended Boxing Day racing at: Market Rasen, Wetherby, Wincanton and Kempton Park in past years, it was consistently rammed and feels he made the correct choice.
More of the same tomorrow!
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It's the "Millwall FC" of Point broadcasts: "No One Likes Us - We Don't Care"Poor HDLG was wandering around Glasgow Apt at 5am , I counted every minute of my shift counting down to 1pm, to freedom and the KG
Sounds like HDLG was making a meaningful contribution to the functioning of society – Chezza’s never been very good at that.
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It's the "Millwall FC" of Point broadcasts: "No One Likes Us - We Don't Care"“They **** you up, your mum and dad.
They may not mean to, but they do.
They fill you with the faults they had
And add some extra, just for you.But they were ****** up in their turn
By fools in old-style hats and coats,
Who half the time were soppy-stern
And half at one another’s throats.Man hands on misery to man.
It deepens like a coastal shelf.
Get out as early as you can,
And don’t have any kids yourself.”P Larkin
Quality, Joe – I remember my Dad quoting that to me when I was a child.
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It's the "Millwall FC" of Point broadcasts: "No One Likes Us - We Don't Care"Because of one thing and another, I didn’t get round to reading a lot on Ben’s
thread after my earlier post, not least because my good lady and I both caught
the flu. I’ve never been as scared in my life that I might lose her after 46 years of marriage.
I’m not trying to do a Yoda, great insight seeking I am not, but I can say
that I would have been lost. That connection is everything, I wouldn’t even
try to replace what I have. Thankfully that’s extremely unlikely, but then the
shoe will be on the other foot, I hate the thought of that too.So many people on here, much more articulate than myself, have put an arm round
Ben and tried to help him through a crisis. In a way it’s really comforting that
so many people would offer hope and encouragement through their own understanding
and experiences. I truly hope that it goes well for you Ben, I have no doubt you
are a genuine decent bloke, who has made mistakes. Who amongst us hasn’t? God I
shudder at some of mine.I think this has been one of the best threads that the forum has thrown up.
More than Ben has been able to take something from it. It brought back many
childhood memories to me, some glorious others quite ugly.Gamble expressed well how it made him reconsider many a thing. One thing I
would ask is, Gamble, keep away from that 18th story ledge mate, you are
needed here for your originality (if that’s the right word) A TRF without
Gamble? I don’t think so.Ben mate, you have my heartiest good wishes, the future is wide open, and it
is yours.I reasoned on another thread that the best decade is the current one. This thread is absolutely my point.
Where else would anyone get so much good advice, so quickly and to top it all off, completely free?
Yes the concept of the Internet forum is a quarter of a century old or more but now we all have a phone in our pocket we can all respond in seconds if we want to. This would not happen in the same way on the newer forms of social media.
This might not advance your much needed advice Ben, I think there’s
been enough to keep you on the straight and narrow. You’re a smart
bloke.So I’ll tell you why you should enjoy everything whilst you can.
This is a true story and happened a couple of weeks ago. My wife
and I caught the flu, not a cold, but the flu (trust me you’ll
know the difference) Anyway, my good lady was rushed by ambulance
to hospital (she’s ok mow) but it was scary.My sister stepped in and I was whisked to her house. I was coughing
my lung up and on anti biotics, but on the 2nd night there was a
rise in my temperature and my oygen level dropped to 87 (low) This
is a hoot so far isn’t it
I dialled 111 spoke with a nurse who asked questions but thought a doctor
needed involved. She said she had a number of questions to ask, and they
should be answered yes or no. So she goes through the lot and then she
verifies who I am. She then said, reading it all back, is all that right
then Mr G. I replied, well yes apart from the fact that you said I was
67. My sister who was sitting on the side of the bed said “you are 67”
In my muddle I asked her, I can’t be 67, are you sure? My sis confirmed
to me that I was 67. At this point I can hear the nurse on the other end
tied up in knotts laughing. Well I suppose I must be then I said.Gees, if I had another 31 years like you, and I don’t mean me getting to
107, I’d maybe realise that I’ve got the time to do whatever I really want.
Go for it Ben, don’t wait.Incidentaly, I wouldn’t change a lot, I just got lucky. When I was a lad
I remember one of my workmates saying, “how the hell did you get a woman
like that” Pure luck, as the song I mentioned (a few pages back) says,
there are strange rivers, rivers you cannot see, but there are strange
rivers, that guide our destiny, yes there are strange rivers, and we’re
sailors, you and me.Enjoy the ride my friend
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